Specifically praising children when they’ve done something well.
Acknowledging effort rather than the final product is also important.
Identifying strengths and helping them to build on their individual strengths will help self-esteem, belonging and sense of success.
Explicit teaching of expectations. Many students with ADHD may not understand or remember expectations. If expectations haven’t been met, trying to separate the behaviour from the individual is key.
Individuals with ADHD can be hypersensitive to feeling like they have done something wrong. This hypersensitivity can present in different ways including anxiety, defensiveness or dysregulation.
Positive phrasing is a useful tool. Telling them what they should be doing rather than what they shouldn’t be doing is helpful. For example: ‘please sit on your chair and look at me’ rather than ‘stop getting out of your seat’.
Patience, empathy and reasonable adjustments are important in ensuring a supportive and positive relationship.